Author Archives: Steven

Never Been to Prom

by Steven

It’s the time of year when high school juniors and seniors visit their local malls to find the perfect tuxedo or dress.  It’s the time for prom: the supposedly magical event that every budding teenager dreams of attending ever since they set their foot on high school; except for yours truly.  Yes, I’m one of those rare species that never attended prom in high school (neither junior nor senior).  Or am I really that rare?  Continue reading

The World’s Most Expensive Coffee

by Steven

During my trip to Indonesia, I’ve been somewhat obsessed with one thing:  kopi luwak.  For those of you that don’t know what it is, this is dubbed as the world’s most expensive coffee…. and it’s basically harvested from the poop of a particular kind of civet (a type of mammal).  Yes, I did say “poop.”  Asian palm civets eat coffee cherries for their fruit pulp. Continue reading

Signs of Pride in Jakarta

by Steven

http://www.jakarta100bars.com/2010/12/nirvana-gay-jakarta.html

a circuit party in Nirvana of Jakarta

I may have to recant some of what I wrote about Indonesia on my post about Lady Gaga being censored in Malaysia.  Yours truly is currently on a 2 week hiatus in Jakarta, Indonesia.  It’s been 8 years since my last visit and I’ve been noticing quite a few changes in this densely populated city I call my birthplace.  Aside from the noticeably worse traffic, I’m sensing a positive change especially in the lives of LGBT people.  Continue reading

The Gayest Anime of All Time

by Steven

Long before gay idol Sailor Moon charmed us with her magical costume transformation, there was Hana no Ko Lunlun (花の子ルンルン) dazzling me with her magical outfit changes which are done by pointing her special locket to various species of flowers.  Lunlun is probably the grandmother of all other magical girl animes that follow and with that, I dub the series as the gayest anime of all time.

I fell in love with the series back in the early 80’s when the show made it to my home country in the form of dubbed Betamax tapes. Continue reading

Censoring Gaga

by Steven

Lady Gaga seems to be a favorite topic of mine.  This entry will be the third post from me concerning her.  Because she’s such a champion for gay rights, how can I not talk about her?  Well it seems in Malaysia radio stations are censoring her single Born This Way by garbling: “No matter gay, straight or bi, lesbian, transgendered life, I’m on the right track, baby.”  This action is taken as a precaution to avoid fines and penalties imposed by the government for playing songs that violate “good taste or decency or are offensive to public feeling.”  Continue reading

Adam and Steve, Dragon Slayers

by Steven


So I recently just bought this game called Dragon Age 2 the day it came out.  While I’m a fan of role-playing games, the Dragon Age franchise offers us gaymers a bit more than other games of this genre in that it features gay/lesbian sex and romance should you desire to play the game in this manner.

It’s good to see video game companies including gay/lesbian plot lines.  This seems to be the trend lately although this is certainly not a new phenomenon.  The earliest inclusion of a gay/lesbian plot line that I can remember happened in the classic RPG Ultima VII from the early 90’s.  In this game you, the Avatar, encounters a bath house and are given the choice of either a male or female character to have some fun with.  While you don’t see any sort of lascivious act being done on the screen, the fact that you can engage in homosexual activities in a game was practically unheard of during that time.  Imagine how intrigued and excited I was to be given this option as a young teenager just starting to discover my sexuality.  I must have visited that bath house multiple times in the game…  Although a bath house isn’t the most positive way to introduce a gay aspect into the plot, I did feel some comfort knowing that there are others out there who recognize who I am as a person and was gracious enough to include it in the game.  This meant a lot to someone who has not come out of the closet yet. Continue reading

Is Lady Gaga Racist?

by Steven

I did not know what racism is until I immigrated to this country at the age of 9.  As soon as I moved here, it seemed like racism bitchslapped me in the face.  For example, my elementary school principal who was fired from another school district for being racist toward some Latino kids refused to place me in accelerated math classes even though my math skills were about 2 years ahead of everyone else (schools in Asia teach math at a much faster pace than here).  His decision made no sense and I highly think it’s racially motivated given his background.  One time in junior high school, a group of kids followed me home, grabbed my belongings and started harassing me by calling me a “chink.”  Most recently, I got into a verbal altercation with someone in a gay club because he was spewing hateful comments about Asians (the topic of gays and racism is worthy of a separate blog post!).  These are just a few examples but there are many more. Continue reading

Hot Pixels

by Steven

Tin’s article on gaymers and WoW inspired me to write this blog.  First let me say that I’m a self-professed gaymer.  My induction into the world of computer/ video games began with the Atari 2600 back in the early 1980’s.  Not long after that, my uncle bought this new contraption called a “personal computer” that you can use to play games.  He had this game called King’s Quest I which I was absolutely in awe with.  The game featured the story of Sir Graham on his quest for the crown and was played using 5.25 floppy disks you had to swap after you get through certain points in the game.  I believe it was one of the first graphical interactive role-playing/adventure games ever created.  Continue reading

Born to Copy

by Steven

So Lady Gaga’s new song “Born This Way” came out a few days ago.  After my first listen, I got a bit teary-eyed by the end of the song.  It is a very empowering song and its relevance to the recent wave of gay teen suicides struck an emotional nerve for me.  How I wish that this song was available back in my teenage years when I was struggling to accept my sexuality.  After that first listen, I read through the comments made by listeners and a large number of them complained that the song is a rip-off of Madonna’s “Express Yourself.”  Yes, you can definitely hear similarities between the two but guess what, musical imitation has been happening for hundreds if not thousands of years. Continue reading

Hot (and Gay) Classical Composers

by Steven

A few days ago a thought came into my mind: the classical music world is full of Plain Janes and Average Joes.  To illustrate my point go on Youtube and watch a full orchestra perform.  Try to pick out the attractive guys (or gals) in the group.  You’re lucky if you’re able to find 3 hotties out of a group of around 80 musicians.  For whatever reason, this is just how it is in the classical world.  I then challenged myself to find good-looking well known composers of the classical world.  I scoured the internet for images of well known composers and I was only able to find 4 composers that I consider attractive.  Yes, only 4 out of about 500 years of music.  Also, the funny thing about these 4 is that they’re all gay (well one is still debated by musicologists but I’m pretty sure he’s queer).  I guess the stereotype that gay men are better looking than their straight counterparts holds true here.  Here are the 4 composers that I found: Continue reading

Being Gay in Your Thirties

by Steven

Last year I turned 34.  If I was straight I would probably be married by now, have a child or two, live in a two bedroom house with a couple dogs and maybe a cat.  Instead, here I am single and vacationing in Hawaii even though I got laid off my day job 2 months ago.  I don’t have a sense of when or even if I am going to get married to a man someday.  I think I want to have kids but I’m not even sure if I REALLY want them or even if it’s financially possible.  It just feels like I’m going through life without any real plan and I wonder if this is the fate of most of us gay men. Continue reading

Ignorance is Bliss?

During my last weekly visit with my mom somehow the subject of the current massacre in Arizona was brought up.  Being the impassioned liberal that I am, I immediately brought up Sarah Palin and how she might have indirectly caused this tragedy with her map and crosshair specifically targeting Rep. Giffords.  I knew my mom likes Sarah Palin.  Every week she tunes in to her Alaska show on The Learning Channel so I was expecting her to staunchly defend Palin but what came out of her mouth shocked me.  She said “I like Palin!  I don’t care about her politics!  I’m not a citizen so why should I care about the politics!”  My jaw dropped and I wanted to grab her, shake her, and knock some sense in to her.  Continue reading

Beautiful Lost Soul

by Steven

A friend of mine in an email recently wrote to me:

“Hey Steven, Kat added me on FB awhile back.  On her FB wall, someone put “R.I.P. Kat.  Is that true??  Just curious”

Finding out news of a friend’s death over Facebook is terrible.  Finding out through someone I don’t know that she died from suicide is even more terrible.

Katherine and I became friends during college.  We met through the Chinese music ensemble where we played the Pipa (a traditional Chinese lute).  Her bubbly personality won me over as I am more reserved and tend to gravitate towards those who are opposite.  Continue reading